We all make mistakes – this is obvious and hardly anyone will argue it. But we’re able to learn on our mistakes and mistakes of other people – this is a certain fact too. Currently you’re feeling depressed and totally desperate about your breakup, but your actions are far from being efficient. In this article I’m going to share with you some secrets of how to get over breakup more easier by avoiding the common (and brutal I might add) faults that almost every man and woman make trying to reconcile with their ex after the breakup.
The First Mistake is: begging and trying to make your ex feel sorry for you.
First of all, let’s clarify the obvious thing: nobody, I repeat – nobody, is attracted to needy and insecure people. So, if you want to attract your ex again, it’s far better to stop this useless strategy and pick another one, more interesting, original and efficient.
So stop contacting your ex for now: phone calls, text messages, voice mail, email etc. This will only reinforce their decision of leaving you and staying away from you. It will probably make them angry, irritated and annoyed – and this is a bad thing for us! Begging and pleading your ex to get back at you may only demean you in their eyes, so they will start almost hating you for this. So don’t give them additional reason to go further away from you. At this point you need to maintain your dignity. You will certainly not do this by beseeching them. So change your course of action as fast as you can, otherwise you will ruin your chances of successful reconciliation.
Second Fatal Mistake: using drugs and alcohol as temporary cure for your pain.
I can tell you tat I used this method myself many times in the past and the truth is… It didn’t make me happy. At all…. Actually these things actually make things much, much worse. Drinking may help you to relax a little bit, but a depressant like alcohol will only make your burden feel even more heave… After you woke up next morning.
More than that, alcohol can lead to drunk dialing – and this is a killer of your relationships, it will repel them from you… Forever! Trust me at this point. So choose other methods to handle your emotions, more healthy and effective in long-term, not only as temporary relief.
Third Dangerous Pitfall you can fall into: being heavily insulted by the very fact of the break-up.
If you want to stop your breakup fast and easily, I strongly ask you to understand this simple fact: although your pride was possibly damaged, it will only result in a stand-off if you continue to convince yourself of “how bad and guilty” they are and use it as an excuse for continuity of procrastination. Create a plan, stop your depression and start consistent action toward getting over the breakup – this is the only way out.
I sincerely hope that understanding these mistakes and carefully avoiding them along your way to successful reconciliation will go a long way in your happiness and healthy long-lasting relationships after you get your ex back. Good luck!
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I feel really down over breakup with girlfriend and can’t understand why?
Hey, we’d been only going out for 3 weeks and before that i liked her and found out she liked me so i asked her out. she felt comfortable with me like in hugging, holding hands, kissing and also like we connected. i took her out on dates to restaurants and that. She broke up with me two days after this as she said she felt she wasn’t ready for the relationship. She said she was confused over her feelings for me too. she also said she didnt want to break up with me as she’d probably regret it and she said she was upset when she told me she wanted to break up.
We talked online and i knew that she had been really hurt in her past relationships and she said i was her only boyfriend that treated her right and i was her best ever looking boyfriend, that she trusted me and could tell me anything. i said i would be there for her whenever she needs me as a friend as her past relationships, her boyfriends never spoke to her or kept contact.
when we were talking she did doubt herself saying that “i deserve someone better” and i said “there is nobody better than you”. i keep complimenting her saying she’s an amazing girl and i’ll be there for you and if she ever wanted to work on the relationship i’d be there. and she said if she ever got her feelings back for me, we’d give it another go and she said it would be pointless as i would already have a new girlfriend by that stage. in one of the online conversations she explained to me her past relationships as i said if she felt she wanted too when i asked. she said to me “your a decent lad you know
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She was also awkward around me in college in this student area, like she would talk for around a minute or two and then she’ll go off and say she’s just gonna talk to her friends and come back when she doesnt
…..on her bebo she was talking to a friend about that she was sad over the breakup and said (which i think she was basing this on how unhappy i felt over the breakup) that “guys think they are in control and usually the ones to do the breaking up”. but i am not unhappy because of that. i’m just upset i am not in a relationship with her.
Her friends said to me i should move on as she isn’t worth it and say “she has had bad past relationships and then she breaks up with a guy like me.” the problem is i can’t move on, and i understand her feelings and want her to be happy but i just can’t stop thinking of her and what could have been
sorry for the long details but i am just clueless as to what to do.
please can someone tell me what to do
i miss her alot…..
on her bebo she also had this guy in her hockey team as her other half, im not sure..
Answer
Three weeks? How could you possibly have felt anything besides infatuation after just three weeks? Maybe she felt smothered. Just reading what you typed made me want to step outside for some air.
Most girls will run for the hills when a guy gets so heavy and serious right from the start. Half the fun of dating is having the patience to allow the rose to blossom to its full blush before bending over it an inhaling its aroma.
What are you doing relying on her friends for advice? Move on. They have her best interests at heart. If you are still upset you’re not in a relationship with her, then you’re not respecting her choice to decide what’s best for herself.
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